Why Do We Stay (or Return) to Bad Relationships?

I’m not just taliking about romantic relationships, I’m talking about friendships, about not having god relationships with your relatives

Why?

I am not a psychologist. That should be cleared up right away. But, I have had some time, and experience, to ponder this. One is that we consider the good out-weighing the bad. This probably isn’t a bad approach for a casual friend, someone who you don’t spend a lot of time with and generally only see during fun activities.

But, when you see them all the time, when you are dating them, you don’t need – or deserve – someone who is constantly putting you down. That friend who constantly tells you not to bother talking to tha cute guy because he is out of your league/not interested. Only to find that he always wanted to talk to you but never had a good reason. To be with a girl who tells you she has another guy waiting in the wings. Doesn’t that just make you feel so wanted?

But then something awesome happens with that person. And you go back to them. You forgive them like the better person you are, and probably never tell them just like you didn’t discuss the issue you had before. Nothing is resolved without communication. And, sometimes, issues are solved by losing a friend. When they are doing things tha you don’t like, you don’t have to stay around. You would be amazed at the people who come with their new adjusted lives.

If they want to change, they will. If they don’t, you won’t have a good relationship. It’s okay to lose people, never forget the good times. But, if you need more people, there are millions just in your state alone! Go talk to that new person!

Just as you need to let go, you need to also trust that there are people out there for you. You just might need to look for them.

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